Personal self-development. What does it consist of? Directions and types of self-development
Boris Akunin
Do you know, dear friends, that one of the highest human needs is self-development? I am sure that you know, or in any case you feel it, that is why you have shown interest in this topic. Yes, this is indeed a very strong need, inherent in all people without exception from birth. It is thanks to self-development that many people find meaning in life and achieve simply outstanding results in various fields. And this is not surprising, because self-development is a person's work on himself, in order to make himself better, if not in all, then at least in many ways. And the better you become, the more you can do in this life to succeed in what is important to you. And in general, self-development is very interesting. Friends, I want to confess to you that I have deep respect for people who show interest in such things as self-development, self-improvement, self-knowledge, self-education, self-study, self-discipline and other similar topics. I am pleased to work with such people and for such people. Because I also want to become better than I am now. I have always wanted this, and have always worked in this direction. Let's do it together now. And for this, let's see how you can and how you need to engage in self-development in order to get from this process not only benefit, but also great pleasure.
First of all, I want to say that the very fact that you are reading this article is already a great achievement for you. The point, of course, is not in the article itself, although I will try to make it very high quality and useful for you, it is in your interest in this topic. After all, self-development begins from the moment when a person pays attention to himself, in order to identify himself in this world, in order to realize his strengths and weaknesses, in order to determine what he wants to become. This is a process of self-knowledge, the purpose of which is to find a person himself in this world. And you have already done this, you, firstly, found yourself, and secondly, you decided that the one whom you understand by your own “I” needs to change, and not just change, but improve. This is a good start, this is the right start - this is the beginning of self-development. Any person, if he draws attention to himself, sooner or later may discover in himself some, not even so much shortcomings, we all have enough of them, how many, let's say, not very well developed qualities that he considers bad developed because he compares himself to other people. After all, everything is known in comparison, well, or almost everything. We cannot know how developed we are without comparing ourselves with other people.
But you do not have to tell yourself that you are somehow worse than other people in order to want to develop yourself, if this does not so much motivate you to work on yourself, as it suppresses and forces you to give up. You just need to want to become better, inspired by the merits of other people, without thinking about your shortcomings. Let them, other people, especially successful people whom you sincerely admire, serve as a good example for you of what a person can become in general. This will instill in you the belief that you can become like that, and even better, because you are also human. And at a certain stage of his development, a person begins to compare himself not with other people, but with himself in the past, using this as a motivation for self-development. So it all starts with the fact that you pay attention to yourself and think about what kind of person you are and what you want to become. You did this by starting to read this article. But you need to move on, you need to realize the meaning of self-development, so as not to engage in this business, so to speak, blindly.
The meaning of self-development
Let us ask you a question - what is the point of engaging in self-development, if ultimately we all come to the same end, regardless of the level of our development and the results achieved in life? This question, I know, is asked by many people, talking about their lives. In fact, there may not be any such pronounced meaning in self-development, as, indeed, in everything else that we do in our life, if we proceed from the above position. The end, we all really have one. But if you think about it, then most likely the whole point is that we simply do not know about this meaning. How do we, for example, know why our Universe exists at all, why did we appear in it, and how, in the end, our existence will end? All these are such questions that any person can run into, arguing about the meaning of anything. Therefore, I cannot tell you with complete confidence why you need to engage in self-development, and what is the point in this, if we proceed from the idea that sooner or later everything in this world will cease to exist, at least in the form in which it exists now.
But I believe that self-development itself can become for you the meaning of your life, in this life. Why not? Why not use this life in order to squeeze out everything that you can do from it? After all, there may be no point in not doing this either. Is that so? What is the point in not doing self-development? What is the point in being lazy, going with the flow, being mediocre, afraid of everything, not dreaming about anything, doing nothing, not striving for anything? You don't know that meaning either, right? But nevertheless, some people choose one path in their lives, and others another. And everyone lives his life as he sees fit to live it. So maybe just make this choice - either in favor of self-development, or in favor of not doing it?
Desire to develop
Now let's think about something else, also very interesting question- why do we want to do something, for example, to engage in self-development, but we don’t want to do something? Where do our desires come from? Self-development is self-development, where independence is key. But this desire to develop ourselves comes to us gradually. At first, any person learns and develops under the influence of external compulsion, that is, with the help of other people who help him, so to speak, to get on the right path in life. If, of course, they help him in this. It is other people who serve as an example for us of how a person can live at all, showing us either a good or a bad example. After all, a lot in our life depends on this, you must agree, including the desire to develop.
If a person shows interest in the process of constant development, more often thanks to other people, less often in spite of them, and becomes addicted to it, then he himself will be able to continue to teach and develop himself in the way he needs, and constantly, throughout his life. Therefore, it is so important, very important to surround yourself with people, as much as possible, who can be a good example for you to follow. It is from their influence on you that your attitude to such things as self-development will largely depend. Of course, we all have our own head on our shoulders, but what thoughts will prevail in it depends very much on our environment.
Let's take, for example, such a type of activity as reading, which very well contributes to the development of a person - it helps him to gain new knowledge, develops his thinking, makes him more rational. You need to get addicted to reading, you just need to love this business, and then you will never stop doing it, never stop reading. You will always and everywhere try to read something to take your time, to learn something new. You will develop yourself through reading. The same is with self-development in general, the situation is. You only need to fall in love once with this business, with this process, and then you will never stop loving it. Because developing yourself is pleasant and interesting. This process is much more enjoyable than, say, smoking, drinking alcohol, gambling and other, let's be honest, nonsense that some people do. So you just need to accustom yourself to self-development, just once make the necessary efforts in order to become addicted to this occupation, if other people have not helped you with this, and then in the future the desire to develop yourself in you will only grow stronger. Even if the usefulness and interest of this activity is not yet obvious to you, and you still do not feel pleasure from it, it already takes possession of your consciousness, letting you know that you need to do this, you need to develop yourself. Because other people do it and they like it. So you may like it too.
At the initial stage, it is quite acceptable, and even necessary, for the above reason, for someone to help you fall in love with self-development. Some person whom you trust, whom you like, whom you will listen to, if he begins to advise you something, should become your guide in truly wonderful world people who are engaged in self-development and self-improvement with great pleasure and get fabulous pleasure from this activity. After all, what is self-development, from the point of view of human activity, is the acquisition of new knowledge, skills and abilities, this is the physical development of the body, this is the development of thinking, this is the ability to manage your inner world and everything else that is associated with the improvement of a person, or everything that is in a person, it will be more correct. It is quite obvious that for such work on oneself, a person may need a mentor, teacher, advisor who will help him take the first steps in this difficult matter. After all, to engage in self-development means to use all the means at your disposal to improve yourself, including other people.
Motivation for self-development
Let's now look at what motivation for self-development can be in our life, based on the influence that external factors have on us. The most, I think, the main thing in self-development, from the point of view of motivation, is emotions. It is they, as a rule, that encourage us to this very self-development. Emotions release our energy, forcing us, at least, to want something very much, or not to want, depending on what kind of emotions it is, and at the most, to do something. And anything can cause them, even though, as mentioned above, other people, even circumstances, even our own thoughts. And at the same time, it does not matter, in fact, what kind of emotions force us to deal with ourselves, the main thing is that we, being under their influence, do something really. Pay attention to what turns you on, what makes you move, learn something, strive for something. All this can be a good motivation for you to self-development. So study yourself. Something must necessarily excite you, something very good or very bad. Or both. You can either want to get something, achieve something, come to something, or get rid of something - from work, from people unpleasant to you, from a hard life, from your own shortcomings that poison your life, well, etc. Sometimes, when a person does not have any desires at all, when he cannot even set a goal for himself, because he does not know what he wants, it will not prevent him from worsening his life a little, in order, firstly, to stir himself up, and then second, to realize those values that he already has and does not want to lose, and for the preservation of which he needs to meet certain requirements. In other words, look for an opportunity to evoke strong emotions in yourself so that they motivate you to self-development. In general, life often throws us such problems with which, as they say, you cannot relax, therefore, it seems to me that many people have the motivation to become stronger, in the broadest sense of the word.
We are constantly driven by either negative or positive emotions, the only question is how we react to them. Some people are overwhelmed by negative emotions, so they don't do anything, no matter how bad or uncomfortable they are. And others, even very strong positive emotions cannot force them to do something, because either it is difficult for them to cope with their laziness, or they simply do not believe in their own strengths, in the fact that they can achieve something. And there are also people who are simply indifferent to everything, who do not care how they live. All these character traits have their own reasons - both for depression, and for laziness, and for indifference to everything. This means that any of these problems can be dealt with. This is already the task of the psychologist - to help you understand yourself. The main thing is that you are “alive”, that is, show a great interest in life and be active. If you feel very bad, you must want to make you feel better. And not to justify your suffering by saying that other people can be even worse than you. And if you feel good, you should want to make you feel even better, you should strive for something that will give you great pleasure. You need to train yourself to strive for victories in order to develop yourself with passion, with a sparkle in your eyes, with interest. It draws people in - the thrill from success, from achievements, from victories - this is a very strong drug. And most importantly, it is a useful drug that does not kill, but improves a person.
At the same time, I want to emphasize once again that it is important to be able to use any emotions to motivate for self-development. Someone moves better when it hurts, someone else when they really want something, that is, for someone the stick is a good motivator, but for someone the carrot. I recommend that you do not spend too much time studying all your psychological characteristics- fill your tank with exactly the fuel that allows you to work well and fly with all your might upward. That is, motivate yourself with what is closer to you. If bad emotions force you to do something with yourself and for yourself - let it be bad emotions, it's okay - motivate yourself with fear, resentment, anger, aggression, as it suits you best. If it's greed, vanity, curiosity, then use them to motivate. Or maybe you just want to leave something behind in this world, something that will allow you to receive great satisfaction from your life, as from a life that has meaning. The main thing is that you see - for what or because of what you will develop yourself, you will make yourself better, you will learn new things, acquire new skills and abilities, get rid of your shortcomings and weaknesses. The main thing is that you care about how your life will turn out.
The benefits of self-development
To engage in self-development correctly and maintain sufficient interest in this process, you need to notice the benefits that you get from it. Therefore, in self-development, it is very important to fix the achieved results, when you notice real qualitative changes in yourself and certain successes in your life. Since we are so arranged that it is difficult for us to do something without seeing from our activities positive results for a long time - it is extremely important to notice in yourself even the slightest changes for the better, and to enjoy them. Then you will not stop and do not stop engaging in self-development. Interest should be constantly warmed up, a person should see the meaning and benefit in what he is doing. How to record results? This is not an easy matter, I must say right away. It all depends on what goals you pursue when you develop yourself. Sometimes a person wants, well, there, say, to get rich in a year, but after a year of active work on himself, he may not have visible success in this area. No matter how many books he reads, no matter what he learns in a year, no matter what skills he develops in himself, his financial situation may remain the same, or it may improve, but not significantly. Why? Yes, for many reasons. Because it may take more time to achieve this goal, because the rest of the world also does not stand still and in it no planning can guarantee a person to achieve the desired result, because, in the end, he may do something wrong, he may be wrong and therefore not have the result he wants. And in general, not everything and not always in this life can be done the first time. Therefore, success does not come to people immediately and not to everyone, but mainly only to those who are persistent enough to be worthy of it. So if something doesn't work out for you, then this is not a reason to quit everything and stop striving for your goal, stop developing yourself. It's just that the results that you can achieve in a certain time may be more modest than you expected, but they will definitely be.
I advise you to keep a diary and regularly write down in it all the changes that you observe in yourself and in your life - this will help you see many positive changes in your life that will occur due to self-development. If you learn something, study something, train something in yourself, then any changes in this direction must be recorded or otherwise recorded. Suppose you want to lose weight and go on a diet for this - start writing down in your diary how many kilograms you lost in a week, month, two months, six months, a year. Also, try to describe your emotional state in as much detail as possible in order to notice progress in this direction. Let all your work on yourself be before your eyes. In other words - record, take pictures, and videotape all the changes that take place in your life, thanks to your work on yourself. Usually we do not change very quickly, so we do not always notice these changes and it seems to us that we do not get any benefit from self-development. For example, if you start actively reading smart books and articles, then you will not immediately notice a change in yourself. It will seem to you that you are still the same person as you were before, while in fact you will become smarter, more knowledgeable in some important issues, more flexible in your behavior, more effective in solving various problems and tasks, you will become make fewer mistakes and make the right decisions more often, and so on. All this is very difficult to notice, but it is possible and most importantly necessary, very necessary. After all, the trouble of many people is that they want everything at once, without even realizing that if they get everything they want, they will quickly lose all interest in life. This is why it is so difficult for some people to notice their progress. They notice only very strong changes, and those are very rare. So keep a diary and write down everything that happens to you in it so that you can see the results that you have achieved through self-development.
But the question is: does it follow from the above that self-development must always have a clear and clear goal? No, friends, you shouldn't. There may not be a clear goal, for the simple reason that a person cannot know about all goals, developing certain qualities in himself, gaining certain knowledge. But at the same time, he can be close to them, engaging in self-development. There are many examples in history of how some initially seemingly meaningless activity made the person involved in it, if not great, then at least in something successful. You may have the same in your life. You can study something without fully understanding why you are doing it. And then your knowledge can be very useful to you. Well, let's say you study foreign language, without an explicit purpose to go somewhere, where you can communicate with other people on it. But at one point, you may see an ad in the newspaper, which will say that a very large company for a high-paying job requires a specialist who, in addition to having a good knowledge of his profession, also speaks the language that you studied. And at this moment, your knowledge may be very useful for you. That is, I want to say that it does not always make sense to get some kind of knowledge to achieve a certain goal, you can do the opposite - adjust your knowledge to some interesting goal that you recently learned about. Therefore, the main thing, after all, I believe that you have an interest in self-development, that you devote enough time to this, and even benefit from what you have learned, mastered, developed in yourself with pleasure - you can always find an opportunity.
Of course, planning and setting goals needs to be done, life should not be chaotic, otherwise you can get confused in it. But understand one very important thing - when planning and setting goals, you are walking along a path already trodden by someone, because you strive for what you already know and with the help of those methods that have already been developed by someone. This is good, but it may not be enough for a person who is not interested in everything known. Some people need a different meaning, a different motivation, in order to develop themselves, and in order to find this meaning, they need to engage in self-development for the sake of self-development, without any plan and specific goals. You can combine self-development for the sake of a goal with self-development for the sake of interest, when a person learns about everything he wants to know about and what he needs to learn, thereby maintaining an interest in working on himself. In other words, figuratively speaking, you need to maintain the fire of passion for self-development by any means. Because although I wrote at the very beginning of the article that having fallen in love with this business, you will never stop doing it, you can still lose your taste for an active life if initially you diligently worked on yourself not of your own free will, but out of necessity, or in other words, because of the impact on you of other people.
Self-development results
What can be your results in self-development? In fact, they are very different, from outstanding to barely noticeable. But at the same time, believe me, they are always there. And these results are sure to make your life better. I know many people who are engaged in self-development and adhere to different strategies in this difficult, but extremely rewarding business. They pursue different goals with varying degrees of success. And I can say for sure - they all receive a certain reward for their efforts. Someone just begins to think better, more efficiently, more practical, someone learns a new skill and, having acquired it, changes their job to a more interesting and profitable one, someone in their business becomes a very good specialist and people begin to appreciate him highly, and someone - it becomes healthier and more cheerful by working on your body. We always have where to grow. There is something to strive for. There is something to be successful in.
I believe that one of the important goals of self-development should be the desire of a person to make his inner picture of the world as much as possible corresponding to reality. After all, the better we understand the world around us - its structure, functions, laws, the great opportunities we will possess to make it more perfect. For example, an engineer, understanding the laws of nature, can use them to create various devices that will make people's lives better, easier, more interesting, more fun, more comfortable. And a specialist who is well versed in the psychology of people can help them become happier and more cheerful, he can teach them to love themselves and life, so that they receive satisfaction from it. And other specialists create medicines that save lives for many people. And so on. In other words, knowing this world, thanks to development and self-development, we get the opportunity to change it. And even if we do not always change it for the better, there is no doubt that this should be done. So the more developed a person is, the more master of his life and even of this whole world he feels himself.
So, friends, self-development is really great. Doing it, you will not live your life in vain. Therefore, do not waste time - develop, learn, acquire new skills, set ambitious goals for yourself and look for ways to achieve them, the whole world is at your feet - live in it as a person, that is, be active. I do not urge you to do something specific, psychology, for example, to study or something else, I can only offer you this. And you yourself decide what you want to succeed in, what you want to learn how to do, what you want to know, understand, realize. Self-development is therefore self-development because a person decides for himself how and in what direction to develop. The main thing is to improve yourself, guided by the principles I have described, and everything in your life will be fine. I invite you, friends, to develop together - I will write interesting articles for you on useful, from my point of view, topics, and you will read them. And in this way we will learn about this world, mainly, of course, from the point of view of psychology, after all, I understand it more, but we will certainly touch on other topics. What do you think, do you agree?
Every person living in the world is a sculptor; at birth, everyone is given some material to create a masterpiece. And this material is ourselves - our feelings, thoughts, moral qualities and character traits. It only depends on us whether we pick up the tool and get down to work, or leave everything as it is, hoping for providence and simply wasting our potential. Cutting off all unnecessary and bad habits, carving out new lines and features of your inner "I", you can create the personality that you always wanted to be, but were afraid of failure or simply did not dare to start. This laborious process is called self-development, different kinds self-development allows everyone to choose the direction of work on themselves. Each of us can become better, the only and most important criterion for starting work on ourselves is the presence of a great desire to change, every day to become better than yesterday.
The expediency of self-development: why is it necessary?
Self-development is a lifelong process, because you cannot know everything and be able to, there will always be new unconquered peaks and goals. There are different spheres, directions and types of self-development. Constant disclosure of one's potential, eradicating bad habits, replacing them with new useful ones, skills, realizing one's capabilities - this is what the term "self-development" means.
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The sages are right when they say that most people use the resources inherent in them by God or nature only to a very small extent - they slightly scoop up the top layer, almost never touching the deep one, where the main treasures are hidden B. Akunin
Many people do not even suspect how rich they sometimes turn out to be. inner world how many ideas are hidden in the subconscious. Therefore, you just need to learn to reveal your potential, look for an opportunity for self-realization. After all, a realized person is a balanced personality, living in harmony with the world and himself, confident in the future and a successful future in general.
Is it necessary to engage in self-development at all, since this is such a complex and long process? Maybe the types of self-development have too strict requirements and unrealizable conditions? Wouldn't it be better not to leave your comfort zone, but to continue living as conveniently, without changes? Personal growth cannot freeze in suspended animation - if the process of self-development stops, then development will invariably decline, to put it simply, personality degradation will begin. Previously acquired skills and knowledge will begin to be forgotten, information will become outdated, since there will be no constant renewal - a life full of bright colors and bright prospects will turn into a dull and aimless existence. Therefore, away from all doubts and fears, take the first step to success, becoming on the long path of personality self-development.
Where to begin
Chinese wisdom says that the longest journey of a thousand li begins with one first step. If you are reading this article, then you have already taken the first step towards self-development - you realized the importance of this process and firmly decided to change for the better. But what to do next? Draw up a clear plan of action. Arm yourself with a pen and a notebook, think about what you are striving for, what goals you set for yourself, what you want to change in yourself, what qualities to bring up. You can arrange it all in the form of a regular list or table, if you are a creative person, create a wish card or creative organizer. Write down absolutely everything, it is extremely important to fix your thoughts on paper - in addition to the fact that visualization of desires is an excellent visual reminder, it also contributes to the development of imagination.
Look more often at your plan, present the final result, add new points, cross out the already completed columns. Looking at the rapidly changing plan of your life, you will clearly see what work has already been done on yourself. Along with this will come self-confidence and a desire for new achievements. So a written plan is, in fact, also a good motivation.
Directions and types of self-development
Self-development covers many spheres and branches of an individual's life. But don't try to cover them all at once. Remember the saying about two birds with one stone? The same method works here - you should not strive to simultaneously become a piano virtuoso, a doctor of technical sciences and a master of sports. Spending a lot of effort in general, being scattered over many cases, it is impossible to achieve absolute success in even one of them. Multitasking is more the enemy of self-improvement than a helper. There are various types of self-development, you just need to choose the right direction for yourself and focus on achieving your goal in your chosen area. So what is self-development?
Let's consider in more detail these options for self-development:
Intellectual
The development of intelligence is not limited to just reading books. In our modern world there are many more ways to get something new, interesting and - most importantly! - useful information. For example, watching documentaries, attending seminars and lectures, and just chatting with smart people.
Physical
If you do not plan to win medals and cups at the Olympics, then self-development in this area involves giving up bad habits, switching to proper nutrition, adherence to sleep and exercise. First, strengthening physical health promotes well-being, which in turn is the key to advancement in other areas of self-development. Secondly, thanks to physical self-development, your appearance, which will be a great excuse to boost your self-esteem.
Spiritual
Spiritual self-development is a very important and necessary process in a person's life. Negative emotions and feelings do not bring anything to the personality but destruction. Apathy and depression are the result of inner negativity. You need to learn to love yourself and the world, forgive minor flaws and shortcomings. It is very important to learn to think in a positive way, because positive, on the contrary, has the power to create, energizes a person and inspires new victories.
Cultural
Museums, theaters, art galleries, concerts - these are all methods through which cultural self-development is realized. Attending this kind of events will not only benefit you in terms of developing and mastering the cultural heritage of generations, but also can simply bring pleasure, become a way of pleasant leisure time.
Material
The types of self-development include not only the improvement of spiritual qualities. After all, in order to increase the level and quality of your life, you also need to develop. Of course, happiness does not lie in material goods, but this does not mean that you do not need to strive for better living conditions or to improve your financial status. As ironic Scots like to say: “You can't buy happiness. But crying in a Mercedes is much more comfortable than on a bicycle. "
Professional
You shouldn't sit up in a position that you have long outgrown. Feel free to step up the career ladder, improve your qualifications. If you are categorically not satisfied with your work, then you should think about mastering new fields of activity or starting your own business. Do not be afraid to change something in your usual way of life. Remember that your success can depend on the determination shown.
Personal growth
Before you start working on yourself, you need to decide what qualities you would like to develop in yourself. Personal growth as a type of self-development is a training of willpower, cultivation of the desired qualities and character traits, hardening of the strength of the spirit, as well as the eradication of negative features of nature.
Social
It is imperative to create a comfortable and supportive atmosphere around you. It is necessary to learn to interact with colleagues, to respect the opinions of friends, to listen to your loved ones. The development of tolerance for minor flaws in society, sociability, the ability to control your emotions - all this will only benefit and help you achieve harmony with the world around you.
You can choose one of the types of self-development and work only in this chosen direction. If you feel the strength to cover several industries - go for it! Just do not overestimate your capabilities, do not try to comprehend, ideally, all types of self-development - it simply cannot be done at the same time. Work in several directions sometimes may not bring any result at all, which can negatively affect the emotional state of the individual, lead to internal "burnout". Also, ineffectiveness can greatly reduce motivation or completely discourage further action.
Never give up
The process of self-development is not easy, it requires a lot of effort and emotional costs from a person who has seriously decided to change himself for the better. This is constant hard work on yourself. Therefore, it is not surprising that sometimes breakdowns, stressful situations are possible, or apathy and indifference to others and to oneself simply sets in. The most important rule in this situation is not to give up and not give up!
Recommendations to help you cope with your problems
- Mistakes and failures really only help you. Through them you gain experience. Also, do not forget that a negative result is also a result. The main thing is not to be idle.
- Believe in yourself! Always, under any circumstances, tell yourself "I can, I will succeed!" After all, if you yourself do not believe in yourself, how can those around you consider self-confidence in you.
- Remember that we are only given such trials that we can endure. If the situation seems insoluble to you, do not rush to give up on it - perhaps your subconscious mind has such hidden resources that you did not previously suspect about. You just need to wait a little and give them the opportunity to manifest.
- As long as a person remains alive, he is always able to change everything. The only reason to give up and stay inactive can only be death. Everything else is fixable.
- Do not forget about people who are always ready to support in difficult times. They are your family and close friends. Do not avoid communicating with them, do not try to deal with your difficulties alone - ask for advice from your environment, believe me, relatives will only be happy to lend a helping hand.
- Take inspiration from someone else's example. If someone has already achieved similar goals, achieved the success you want, then why can't you do the same.
- Sometimes all it takes is just a day off. Perhaps the body was exhausted from constant stress and demanded its well-deserved rest through a nervous breakdown. Don't create situations like this, allow yourself to be relaxed and distracted.
- It is better to regret what has been done than what you have not done. Do not miss the opportunity, so that later you do not regret inaction.
- Remember that you are part of a huge society. And if your personality becomes better in the process of self-development, then the whole society, the whole environment, also changes in a positive direction. By changing yourself, you are changing the world.
There are no desperate situations - self-develop
Rise out of your slum, go out into the free white light, try: development, development. Observe, think, read those who tell you about pure enjoyment of life, that a person can be kind and happy. Read them - their books delight the heart, observe life - it is interesting to observe it, think - it is attractive to think. Desire to be happy - that is the only desire you need. To do this, you will take pleasure in taking care of your development: only in it is happiness. Oh, how much delights a developed person has! Try: - good! N. G. Chernyshevsky
Remember that all types of self-development are your path to success, to self-realization and achievement of inner harmony. Every day of your life is extremely important, so do not waste your time, start the path to improve yourself right now!
I would like to start the conversation about self-development with one interesting experiment. A group of young people were advised to spend 48 hours alone without any means of entertainment, including technical gadgets. It was allowed to do any ordinary business, walk, read paper books... The experiment could be terminated at any time.
Only two girls and one guy reached the end of the term. What have they been doing all this time? The guy was engaged in physical exercises and training, one girl wrote a diary and re-read her favorite books, and the second meditated.
To all other young people, such forced loneliness seemed simply unbearable, and at various times they were forced to stop the experiment. The most interesting thing is that after that they experienced a significant change in their well-being, up to panic attacks, headaches, exacerbation of chronic diseases.
What do the results of this experiment say? That modern people they are not ready to meet their “I”, and they absolutely do not know what to do with themselves, if we remove the usual ways of structuring time, such as aimless communication, watching TV, surfing the Internet. Almost no one knows what self-development is, and how it can be done.
What is self-development for?
Man is the only creature on Earth endowed with the ability to reflect. No animal is able to be aware of its actions and plan for the future. Man has been given a great gift - free will. It is the freedom of expression that allows us to independently build our own life, go forward, despite obstacles, and achieve the impossible.
But not everyone can become the master of their lives. The path of self-development is long and difficult; it encounters a huge number of obstacles - real and imaginary.
Personal self-development and success always go hand in hand:
- If you understand yourself, you will understand others.
- If you know your strengths and usefulness, you can become a professional in any business you choose.
- If you realized your weaknesses, you will be able to draw conclusions and not make stupid mistakes.
Only the person who is constantly engaged in self-knowledge and self-development can, at the end of his life path look back with gratitude, realizing what he did and achieved in this life everything that was intended for him.
Everyone needs self-development - any person can change himself if he really wants, and there will always be something that can be changed in himself.
What is self-development?
As there are no two identical personalities, there are no two identical paths of self-development. It is always difficult to give any advice on self-development. Each person has his own psychology and philosophy of life, so the first steps on the path of self-development can be very different.
Everyone can start self-actualizing in their own way. It is only important that subsequently, in any case, a person comes to the realization that everything in the world is interconnected, and only a combination of all types of self-development harmoniously affects the formation of the Personality.
Types of self-development:
- Spiritual self-development - for one it is religion, for another esotericist, for the third - just meditation.
- Physical self-development - exercise and sports.
- Material self-development is the path to financial independence
- Social self-development - increasing communication skills, developing empathy and the ability to love.
- Personal self-development - self-acceptance, awareness of strengths and weaknesses.
- Intellectual self-development - reading books, seminars, trainings, lectures.
- Creative self-development is the desire to create something new.
- Self-development in professional field- advanced training, start going to professional or just useful courses.
In fact, if you recall Maslow's pyramid, then correctly satisfying any of his needs, a person is engaged in self-development.
Therefore, how many needs a person has, so many opportunities for self-development
It is important to understand what you lack and what you want, accept it in yourself, love yourself, and then start developing your abilities
Where to begin?
Self-development and self-improvement always begins with self-knowledge, with the ability to boldly and without illusions look into oneself, admit one's shortcomings, and realize one's true merits. After that, you can already take the next steps on the path of Personal Growth and the development of creative potential.
In addition, personal growth and self-development involves:
- Planning, the ability to follow the planned plan and schedule.
- The desire to live a conscious life, the development of awareness in oneself.
- Controlling your own thoughts and emotions.
- Ability to take responsibility for your actions and your life.
- Development of will, self-improvement of volitional qualities.
- Ability to relax on your own.
- Development of empathy and love for the world and other people.
- Improving professionalism in your business.
- Healthy lifestyle.
- Engaging in creativity.
The advice of psychologists, wise old people and acquaintances who have achieved success can also help you in self-knowledge and self-development, but it is important not to forget that these are only advice, and you have to make decisions in your life.
In addition, there are numerous self-development films on the net that you can watch:
Here is an example of such a video on chakra development and meditation:
Sometimes even suitable photos or motivators that accidentally caught your eye can become the impetus for the beginning of your self-development.
For example:
Self-development options
So, you can start classes and exercises that contribute to self-improvement and self-development from anything. We will list just a few of possible options self-knowledge and personality development:
- Reading books (paper or electronic);
- Lectures;
- Seminars;
- Courses;
- Trainings;
- Video and audio recordings;
- Individual lessons with a specialist.
Motivation for self-development
Don't expect tangible results right away. The human body and its psyche are arranged in such a way that all the most significant changes occur gradually, as if accumulating and not manifesting in any way outwardly.
You are strictly following your plan. You are engaged in your physical improvement, read books on relevant topics, attend lectures, seminars, communicate with like-minded people. A month passes, then another, you continue your studies, no longer hoping for a result, but simply because it has become a style of your life.
And then, at that very moment, the quantity suddenly turns into quality, and you wake up as a completely different person. Now you have powerful resources for further self-development, and how you use them further depends only on you.
How not to give up when something goes wrong?
If you lose heart and have lost faith in yourself, think about what is the most dark time days happens just before dawn. You have enough reasons to keep moving forward: 
- There is only one and only valid reason why it is permissible to surrender - this is death. As long as a person is alive, he can always change the situation.
- The man is much stronger than he thinks. We are given only those tests that are within our power.
- Believe in yourself. The right path is never easy.
- You have tremendous support: your family and close friends who will always support you in your quest to move forward uncontrollably.
- Self-development changes not only you, thanks to it you can change to better world or other people's lives.
- Everything takes time, but it is better to do something and regret than to regret what you did not do.
- Self-development is a way to prove yourself and prove to yourself what you are capable of.
- If someone has already been able to do this, then so can you.
- There are so many people who do not have what you have. Want to give up your daily exercise? Some people cannot even walk ...
- Mistakes also help self-development. A negative result is also a result.
- Often forces leave us literally by a hair's breadth of success.
- Your self-development can serve as a source of inspiration for the people around you. Think about it.
Self-development and self-improvement is not an easy business. But the path will be mastered by the walking one. Anything that comes quickly is usually just as fast and goes away. Therefore, tune in to measured and calm work on yourself, and just take the first step.
A lot of people are now engaged in self-development. But the trouble is that really positive results in independent work a very small percentage of people reach above themselves. And there are very serious reasons for this, which we will consider in this article.
Questions to be answered:
- What is Personality Self-Development?
- The main mistakes that 90% of people engaged in self-development make
- The laws of effective self-development - what is needed to achieve super results in development
In order to understand what Self-Development of a Personality is, you first need to understand in more detail what Development is and what a Personality is.
Development- this is a change in a person, his purification and strengthening (disclosure of potential).
- Cleansing- from delusions, mistakes, vices, weaknesses and evil (negative qualities, emotions, programs, habits and reactions).
- Gain- the formation and disclosure of the necessary virtues (qualities, talents, abilities, feelings), the growth of the power of Will, the power of the Spirit, energy strength.
- About what is Personality – .
So Self-development Is a process of independent human development. But I note that this does not mean that a person develops alone, without a mentor or Teacher, which means that he is completely self-sufficient and has all the necessary knowledge and techniques to ensure his growth.
Basic illusions and mistakes of Self-Development
The first mistake is when Self-development (development) is confused with cognition! Where cognition is the accumulation of knowledge without its purposeful practical application. When a person absorbs tens and hundreds of books on development, but purposefully does not implement anything from what he read in his life, but only accumulates information. This cannot be called development or self-development, it is nothing more than hoarding. I can say that in this way arrogant “smart people” are born, who, in fact, are unsuccessful losers.
- About what is the Spiritual Development of a Human - see on
The second mistake is the use of many sources of information for development. When a person in his head from disparate and contradictory pieces tries to assemble a consistent whole. At all times, only a few people could solve such a problem - these are the great Spiritual Teachers and the founders of Religions. So the majority need to get down from the throne, take off the crown and stop imagining themselves cooler than Jesus Christ, they say, "I'm now pushing for information and blindness to something of my own ...". In order to synthesize knowledge, especially knowledge in the spiritual sphere, you need to be at least a genius, or an unreasonable person with delusions of grandeur.
The third mistake is when a person bets on one thing, and discards everything else and does not take it into account. for example, learned one sacred mantra and is trying to apply it like a magic pill wherever possible and where not, to solve any problems and problems. Of course this won't work. Each law, principle or technique of development works in its own area: somewhere you need strength, somewhere a word, somewhere feelings. Prayer, for example, won't pump up a muscle; you need a barbell and daily workouts. How meditation and thoughtlessness cannot make a career. To make a career, you need other actions and techniques.
The fourth mistake is the rejection of authorities, teachers and mentors. Let me remind you that according to statistics, 99% of all successful people necessarily had a mentor, teacher or coach, and they worked on themselves constantly, many until their death. Probably they understood something in this, since they achieved success. You can indulge your self-esteem as much as you like, but without a look from the outside and the help of professionals (healers, mentors, coaches), it is impossible to move forward and up effectively. Know, no matter how you justify yourself, but if you think that you do not need any mentor, consider yourself “the smartest” - you have problems, the diagnosis is Pride. And pride is the main and most serious obstacle on the path of development, from which big troubles always begin in fate.
The fifth mistake is problems with motives. Or, when a person has no motives at all, that is, he is engaged in development for the sake of development, in which case he will never have significant results. Or, when a person's motives, why he is developing, are purely selfish, selfish or, even worse, negative (to take revenge on someone, cause harm, etc.).
Self-development motives- this is the first and most important thing that will maximally influence the effectiveness of development and disclosure of human potential. Let me remind you that the Higher Forces give good to the disclosure of all abilities, talents, and all the potential that is in a person. And if a person does not deserve something, for example a third eye, if his motive is not pure, this ability will be blocked and whatever the person does not, is inaccessible.
Of course, these are not all mistakes of self-development, but the most basic ones.
Basic laws of effective self-development
1. Clarity of vision of the final and intermediate results - the goals of your development. You must clearly understand what you want to achieve, who to become, what to feel, what qualities to possess and the abilities to master.
The goals of your self-development - be sure to prescribe in writing and in as much detail as possible so that you clearly see the result you are going to. How to set and achieve the right goal -.
2. The positive motives for your development must also be identified and realized. In fact, this is an answer to the question - where and how you are going to apply, apply and direct the revealed potential, acquired strength, etc. Self-development should always serve a Good Deed: the development of society and people, the creation of something worthy and important for humanity. If the potential is not used for good, its opening will be karmically blocked.
The motivation for development, if you want it to be really effective, also form in writing, and at the same time be as sincere with yourself as possible. Article “How to effectively motivate yourself” -.
3. A single source with an integral system of Knowledge(answers to the maximum number of questions), with the depth and breadth of knowledge that satisfy you both theoretically and practically (everything is realizable). There should be no contradictions in the Knowledge, something unreasonable, illogical and not practical. Otherwise, why then such knowledge that cannot be applied in life, which is full of contradictions and mistakes.
4. Availability effective technicians for self-development- to solve all possible problems, disclosure of the necessary qualities, abilities and achievement of the set goals. For effective self-development, a whole range of techniques is needed: from the formation of understanding and decision-making, to energetic working out, working with programs, beliefs, sensations, states, roles, emotions and reactions. Such a set is provided only by the system.
5. Worthy authority, mentor, teacher or healer- someone who can assess, correct your development, someone who goes a few steps ahead and will help you not to break or get lost. The one who, among other things, will descend to Earth from heaven, tear him out of the world of illusions, because the path of development is simply strewn with dangerous traps and trials.
I wish you not to be arrogant, and to find the system of knowledge that will give you the maximum!
Everyone has heard about the word "self-development". Everyone puts their own meaning into it, but for someone it becomes the meaning of life. But still, what is self-development?
Definition
The word speaks for itself. Self-development is personal development(or growth, to put it another way), which is a very popular topic in psychology. A lot of money is earned on this these days.
Initially, the term "personal growth" was coined by well-known psychologists Maslow and Carl Rogers. It refers to the secondary (higher) spiritual needs of a person. As already mentioned, many people want to develop themselves personally, but not all. Self-development includes a wide range of things, such as career growth, achieving inner harmony, the absence of negative thoughts, being kind to other people, self-control, realizing one's talents / desires / goals, building social connections, reading useful books, getting out of the comfort zone, balancing self-esteem, dealing with fears and more. This can even include physical development, since a person pursuing the goal of self-improvement usually wants to comprehend it in all its diversity.
pros
Personal self-development has many benefits for a person. For example:
- Achieving spiritual tranquility. This also includes getting rid of apathy and more serious things. Many people do not know what worries them. It seems to them that they are spending their lives aimlessly if they do not do something useful for themselves and others every day. And it is for them that self-development usually becomes higher meaning life.
- Career growth. A person working on himself can often find himself in some business or move up the career ladder.
- Self-development can become a pleasant part of life, entailing the improvement of many areas, getting rid of a lot of stress.
Minuses
Self-development and self-improvement are two very related concepts. The pursuit of them, as such, may not be the goal. It is a long process with no end. And this is a very big disadvantage of self-development - a person can get carried away with it too much, but in the end it will come nowhere, because personality development has no ultimate goal.
And unfortunately, it is not uncommon that people who are keen on self-development are overwhelmed with pride, feel much superior to other people only from the fact that they are engaged in spiritual development.
But let's move from bad to good. Even without spending on trainings and psychologists, you can make great progress on the path of self-development, the best and universal advice will help you with this.
How to achieve personal growth?
You have already understood what self-development is and what it means for you, and now let's move on to action. First, of course, you need to tune yourself in the right way, realize what you can do to develop yourself and make a list (mentally or on paper).
Below we will talk specifically about personal self-development. It should be borne in mind that some people see the meaning precisely in spiritual self-improvement and religion, so everyone has it differently.
Now let's move on to the next most popular steps.
Meditation
Often times, people are prone to stress, in order to relax and calm down, you need something special. Meditation does not take much time, but it allows a person to be alone with himself and his thoughts. It will help you filter out the unnecessary and teach you to concentrate. Meditation can be practiced for only 1-3 minutes or more (optional). But it should be borne in mind that this method of relaxation is not suitable for everyone, because with a certain type of character, meditation does not help at all, but even annoys.
Healthy lifestyle
Everything here is unambiguously simple. IN healthy body- a healthy mind. With good health, you can do other things, for example, career, social relationships, family and other important things. It is also much cheaper to be healthy than to end up curing diseases from which no one is immune. By the way, you can reduce the risks:
- Proper nutrition directly affects your well-being. Here it is only enough to reduce the amount of harmful products (for example, fast food) and do not skip meals (especially breakfast).
- Adequate sleep (6-9 hours on average) every day.
- Sports - just go for a jog 2-3 times a week, do fitness or dance, depending on your preferences and physical indications for good health.
Leaving your comfort zone
You should not jump above your head. If you have certain goals that you have been planning to achieve for a long time, but still cannot start, then now is the time. This is also a kind of way out of the comfort zone, but without any madness, which is not needed at all.
Have you been planning to write a book for a long time, quit your job and become a freelancer or take a trip? This is all much more real and very feasible. The main thing is to start and take the first step. In the case of travel - save up, with freelance - find your niche, etc.
spring-cleaning
The next point can also help those who decide to engage in self-development. The psychology of general cleaning is simple: you need to clean up and weed out all that is unnecessary in our life. And this applies not only to the home, but also to the environment, affairs and other things. Although regular house cleaning will never be superfluous.
Thoughts
It is also important to control yourself and not allow aggression, because of which relationships with people can deteriorate.
The next point that a person can do for his self-improvement is to let go of the past if it holds back and interferes. It is not always easy to do this, but you need to look into the future more often and live also in the present. In extreme cases - to a psychologist.
Lists and diaries
It was already mentioned above that it is very convenient to write everything down on paper. Lists are useful because they organize plans and to-do's. And a diary can sometimes replace a psychologist. The more you open your thoughts to paper, the easier it is to understand yourself. A diary can help all the way. First, they write in it what self-development is for a particular person, as well as all their thoughts and events. It is worth noting that even small successes should be recorded more often.
Books
Reading fiction is an incredibly rewarding activity. It will not be superfluous to read at least one book a month (preferably classics). This enriches speech, broadens the horizons and more.
- “Be the best version yourself: how ordinary people become outstanding ”, Dan Waldschmidt;
- The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: A Story of Fulfilling Desires and Finding Destiny, Robin S. Sharma;
- Transcend: Nine Steps Towards Eternal Life, Raymond Kurzweil, Terry Grossman;
- “Get out of your comfort zone. Change Your Life: 21 Methods to Improve Your Personal Effectiveness, ”Brian Tracy;
This is just a small list of books. In fact, there are a lot of them for every taste.
Instead of a conclusion
What is self-development? It can be spiritual, physical, personal. This is what develops a person in different ways and prevents degradation. A person can improve himself, even if he does not think about it. But you can consciously try to make yourself and your life a little better.
